DECEMBER 2007.........LESSONS LEARNED!
WOW! We've come to the end of another year....2007. And what an awesome year it has been!
We got so use to the Journey that settling back in was somewhat of a challenge.

But then we always expect too much of December. I suppose it's similar to all the other months. We're subject to the same aches, pains, "bugs", bronchitis, colds, allergies, bum knees, out-of-whack backs, traffic, stress, strain....but somehow we expect MORE/BETTER in December. We try to cram too much into the same amount of time and our rigid expectations soar beyond reality....Add to that, the loss of a dear friend, a much loved one, and instead of celebration and joy......our spirits miss The Spirit and we spiral downward. This Holiday Season started out no differently than all the rest....we got the "bugs", the aches, the pains, the traffic was awful, the list of expectations dictated by "tradition" started the tension mounting.....I mourned the loss of my friend and Christmases Past. There were moments when I wallowed in self pity and longed for my "house". I resisted being flexible enough to embrace the here and now and to open myself to new experiences, new ways to celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. How could such an awesome year end on such a pitiful note? It didn't!
There were low moments for sure, but we experienced the love of family and friends in non-traditional ways and discovered a sustaining joy ..... a lasting Christmas Spirit!
Early in the year, Jud, Tommy, Ray, Terrie and I decided we would gift ourselves and each other with a trip to Mexico Beach, FL, the second week in December. What a week it was! Since Jud and I were committed to provide "gran-care" for Grace, she had no choice but to join us. She certainly didn't mind!!! Her excitement was infectious! We headed for Florida taking two days to get there and every few miles she wanted to know if we were at the Beach yet?
It was glorious....if you love the beach you understand, if you're not a beach person....all you'd have to do is see it through Grace's eyes.....such joyous abandon!!!!!
Cousins, Cheri and Amelia, joined us....Cheri had to leave before this photo was made. We hated to see her go and were very concerned about her...rightfully so. Thank God, she is feeling much better now!
Despite our concerns, it was a great time with precious family and a rare opportunity....brought back lots of growing up memories. Hope we do this again!!!
We had music with "Uncle Sally" (i.e. Aunt Terrie) and Uncle Ray! With all the Christmas Music, plus!
Papa Jud made Grace a tin-can dulcimer, so she had her own "instrument".....Perhaps a "rock star" was born???? (The Coke box was her own creative addition!)
"Aunt" Amelia (really a cousin) has ocean water in her veins and beach sand in her shoes....always! She's also a 5th grade science teacher...who loves her job and her students.....so she taught us things we didn't know about the beach.....like the holes we see in the sand are made by tiny little sand pipers (not crabs).....and we learned all about sea turtles!
The giant mama turtle crawls out of the sea, digs a big hole with her flippers, moves into her hole....
patiently lays her eggs, then gently covers them with sand...packing it with her body, and crawls back into the sea.
Rustic Sands Campground was fully decorated, lights everywhere....Grace was "impressed" (her words) especially with the "blowups"....the child cannot fathom a Christmas without "blowups"....she loves them....... and now so do I!
Imagine that!
We returned in time for the Preshcoolers' Christmas Program! A sparkling performance by 3-year olds. (The others did a fine job too)....I thought about Mother....she would have loved this Kindergarten program!!!! Music, Lights, beautiful elaborate Sets, proud Parents and unpredictable Children doing their thing. It was something! Grace and her friend, Emma Grace, in the center were quite the hams! What joy! What spirit!
We traveled to Warner Robins for the celebration of the life of our dear friend and to mourn his passing. In the midst of sadness, Carol Archer (a cancer victim herself and a wonderful spirit) pulled us all together for coffee and cookies at her house afterward. We were warmed by the love of friends and the sharing of that special bond we have with one another...about 10 families of us, who have loved and nurtured one another through the years. It felt good to be together. Thanks Carol and Dan!
Meanwhile the achy knees, the whacked backs, the coughs and sneezes continued....yuk! We had to postpone our visit in Macon with our precious longtime friends, Mary and Jim...."but we've never missed celebrating Christmas with them," I wailed......We felt like a pair of old shoes....and still the shopping and wrapping.....and cooking? Did I dare? Would it be Christmas if I didn't? What about everybody's "favorites"? How could we get around to seeing everybody? And besides....they certainly didn't need our germs...Oh Woe!
And then there was the problem of "all being together"....preferably at "my house"....only my "house" is so small....
Well, we weren't! (all together or at my house!)
And somehow it all turned out to be both beautiful and meaningful!
Tommy graciously invited us to visit with him on Christmas Eve. We attended a beautiful Christmas Eve Service at his church....our hearts were warmed and The Spirit made His presence known as we joined
others in holy worship....
The Christmas Story, the Chrismon Tree, the Traditional Carols and Christmas Anthems.....lovely!
Afterward, we did something I've never done before....we had Christmas Eve Dinner at a local Atlanta Restaurant, famous for their catfish! The restaurant, Six Feet Under, is across the street from the historic Oakland Cemetery. The food and service were certainly non-traditional, but deliciously outstanding! We had a memorable Christmas Eve with my dear brother, Tommy, and may have started a NEW tradition!
This year was the Hodges' turn to have Amy, Andy and the kids on Christmas Day....so Jud, Joel, and I planned to spend the day together. What a neat day it turned out to be.....totally relaxed! Amy and Andy generously offered us their home....fully decorated.....and we spread out and enjoyed every inch of all that lovely space! Amy also has mastered (and improved) my Fruit Cake recipe and left us half a cake, that she made! And I made a few "favorites" to go with the Honey Baked Ham!!!
Joel was there by 9:00 AM....we ate, visited, laughed, ate, talked, watched TV, ate, exchanged gifts, ate, napped.....and then started all over again....no china plates or fancy linens....we even decided not to sit at the table (very non-traditional)....in fact we agreed that we didn't even want our pictures made....this was our view....beautiful fire, tree, and TV!
What an incredible day and evening...totally laid back. Joel spent the night and we had the pleasure of his company the next morning. A very special day with our son! Awesome!
We transitioned again Wed afternoon....
Christmas doesn't belong just to little children but when you experience it with them, you can't help but catch their spirit....We experienced it all!
The joy of Giving.....
The Delight and Satisfaction of gifts well chosen and well received......
The Bike..... The Guitar Hero.....
And the aftermath.....
Cole was in his room, "practicing" his guitar...part of his Christmas was a promissory note for a real guitar and lessons, when he is ready. He thinks he will be soon.
AND....we will spend New Year's Eve tonight with our dear friends, Mary and Jim!!!! We are looking forward to ringing in another new year with them!
I remember my Grandmother saying...."I'll take them as I can get them!" She was a wonderfully, wise lady and I wanted to be just like her when I grew up....perhaps age CAN bring flexibility, a willingness to break with "tradition", and the treasures that go with it.
Lessons Learned: Certainly there is merit in being able to find gems of peace, beauty, joy, Holy Spirit - in among and around the junk stones we carry around. December comes once a year....but we really can experience Christmas every day, if we will just open ourselves up, lower our expectations, be watchful and "take them as [we] get them"! (sort of like looking for sea glass!)
We must remember to BE as a little child! This one is a good example!!!
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY....... AND HAPPY NEW YEAR.....all 365 days of it!!!































































































































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